Sunday Live Service 09 August 2020 – Recover Woman’s Power From Within

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Recover Woman’s Power From Within

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy–meditate on these things.

# 1
DON’T WASTE TIME FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELVES

Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.

# 1 THE PROBLEM WITH FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive. It leads to new problems and can have serious consequences.

# 1 THE PROBLEM WITH FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

  • It’s a waste of time. Feeling sorry for yourself requires a lot of mental energy and does nothing to change the situation.
  • It leads to more negative emotions. Once you allow it to take hold, self-pity will ignite a flurry of other negative emotions.
  • It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Feelings of self-pity can lead to living a pitiful life.

# 1 THE PROBLEM WITH FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

  • It prevents you from dealing with other emotions. Self-pity gets in the way of dealing with grief, sadness, anger, and other emotions.
  • It causes you to overlook the good in your life. If five good things and one bad thing happen in a day, self-pity will cause you to focus only on the negative.
  • It interferes with relationships. Complaining about how bad your life is will likely wear on people rather quickly.

# 1 REPLACE THOUGHTS THAT ENCOURAGE SELF‐PITY

  • What’s another way I could view my situation?
  • What advice would I give to a loved one who had this problem?
  • What evidence do I have that I can get through this?
  • Keep a gratitude journal. Each day write down at least one thing you’re grateful for.

# 2
DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.

# 2 THE PROBLEM WITH GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER

  • You depend on others to regulate your feelings. When you give away your power, you become completely dependent upon other people and external circumstances to regulate your emotions. Life often becomes like a roller coaster—when things are going well, you’ll feel good; but when your circumstances change, your thoughts, feelings, and behavior will shift.
  • You let other people define your self-worth. If you give others the power to determine your self-worth, you’ll never feel worthy enough. You’ll only be as good as someone else’s opinion of you and you will never be able to receive enough praise or positive feedback to meet your needs if you depend on others to feel good about yourself.
  • You avoid addressing the real problem. Giving away your power lends itself to helplessness. Rather than focus on what you can do to improve the situation, you’ll find an excuse to justify your problems.

# 2 THE PROBLEM WITH GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER

  • You become a victim of your circumstances. You’ll become a passenger in your own life rather
    than a driver. You’ll say other people make you feel bad or force you to behave in a manner
    you don’t like.
  • You become highly sensitive to criticism. You’ll lack the ability to evaluate criticism. Instead,
    you’ll take anything anyone says to heart. You’ll give much more power to other people’s
    words than those words deserve.
  • You lose sight of your goals. You won’t be able to build the kind of life you want when you
    allow other people to be in control of your goals. You can’t work toward your goals
    successfully when you give other people the power to get in your way and interfere with your
    progress.
  • You ruin relationships. If you don’t speak up when people hurt your feelings or you allow
    them to infringe on your life in an unwelcomed manner, you’ll likely grow resentful toward
    them.

# 2 TAKING BACK YOUR POWER WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER

  • You’ll develop a better sense of who you are when you’re able to make choices based on what’s best for you instead of what will prevent the most repercussions.
  • When you take responsibility for your own behavior, you’ll become accountable for your progress toward your goals. You will never be pressured into doing something that you
    don’t want to do based on guilt trips or what you think other people want you to do.
  • You’ll be able to devote your time and energy to things you choose. You won’t have to blame other people for wasting your time or ruining your day.
  • Retaining your personal power reduces your risk of depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. When you decide not to give other people and external circumstances the power to control how you feel and behave, you gain more power over your mental health.

# 3
DON’T SHY AWAY FROM CHANGE

It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t . . . It’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.

# 3 TYPES OF CHANGE

  •  All-or-nothing change—Some changes are incremental while others are basically all or nothing.
  • Habit change—Most habit changes allow you to try something new for a little while, but you can always revert back to your old habits.
  • Behavioral change—Sometimes there are behavioral changes that don’t necessarily constitute a habit.
  • Emotional change—Not all change is tangible.
  • Cognitive change—Perhaps you want to think less about the past or maybe decrease worrisome thoughts.

# 3 FIVE STAGES OF CHANGE

  • Precontemplation—When you don’t yet identify any need to change.
  • Contemplation—People who are actively contemplative are considering the pros and cons of making a change.
  • Preparation—This is the stage where people prepare to make a change. They establish a plan with concrete steps that identify what they are going to do differently.
  • Action—This is where the concrete behavioral change takes place.
  • Maintenance—This often overlooked step is essential.

# 3 THE PROBLEM WITH SHYING AWAY FROM CHANGE

But avoiding change doesn’t always have just physical consequences. Remaining stagnant can also interfere with personal growth in other areas of your life.

  • Staying the same often equals getting stuck in a rut. Life can get pretty boring if you don’t do anything differently. A person who simply decides to keep things as mundane and low-key as possible isn’t likely to experience a rich, full life and might become depressed.
  • You won’t learn new things. The world will change with or without you. Don’t think that your choice not to change will prevent anyone else from embracing change. You’ll risk being left in the dust if you choose to keep doing everything the same for the rest of your life
  • Your life may not get better. If you don’t change, you can’t make your life better. Many problems that are waiting to be solved require you to do something different. But if you
    aren’t willing to try something new, those issues are likely to remain unresolved.

# 3 THE PROBLEM WITH SHYING AWAY FROM CHANGE

  • You won’t challenge yourself to develop healthier habits. It’s easy to develop bad habits. Breaking bad habits requires a willingness to try something new.
  • Other people will outgrow you. If you are unwilling to challenge yourself and improve, others may grow bored with you.
  • The longer you wait the harder it gets. The longer you keep the same habits, the harder they can be to break.

 

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